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Here’s a story. This happened probably in the neighborhood of 55 years ago. I was aware of the story, but only upon reflection has the lesson of the story been brought home to me. I thought I would share, as my friend Forest once opined aloud to me, “It’s no good unless you share it.”

Here’s the thing: at the time it happened I merely learned something from the story. But, that was good enough for me as I never insisted on a complete understanding of something my brain took in and assimilated.

The first time I tried water skiing was behind a wooden Chris Craft boat in the bay of Ocean City, NJ. The boat was not quick on the take off as it was heavy and made such that it could take the beating of the ocean while fishing out from the shore. I had fished in that bay for much of my childhood and had caught sting rays, sharks, robin fish, flounder, etc. there. My dad and sister were on the boat and a contemporary of my dad was at the helm. The skis were big wooden things designed to work for a man, and I maybe weighed 115 pounds. The water was not smooth at all and I was pretty much on my own. I was suspect of the helmsman simply because I had observed him repeatedly over time and knew that his reaction speed was minimal. (Turns out he was a classic: the guy who knew what he knew, but in doing something in which he had not been taught often had a void in a key understanding, which had never been resolved by him even if it happened repeatedly.)

I had devised that I should not stand up until I got going pretty fast. The goal was to floor the boat so that happened quick. Instead, helmsman accelerated as he would when fishing, in a relaxed mode. The skis started splitting and because I was still down I couldn’t bend the toes inward and just as they were pretty much past the point of no return, he floored it, I think because my dad told him to (just a few moments too late). I went over the skis, knowing I should let go, but not wanting to on a fundamental level because of the threats of me being at the mercy of the fish world over which I had always been separated from by a boat.

My sister and dad were laughing so much they did not alert the helmsman immediately and his take or feel, given the size of the boat and the low relative difference between me being dragged or skiing, didn’t cue him in as he looked forward. I hung on until I took in my third or fourth gulp of salt water and had to give it up. He only stopped after that, and then they went to retrieve the skis before coming for me.

Here is where I took control over the lesson that would be learned that day, though it was nothing conscious. I think my dad read my body language and allowed me to win the argument we would have otherwise had.

When they drove to me, finally, my dad launched the ski toward me in the water, with the typical thought that I  would “get back on the horse that threw me”. That was the standard teaching method for things such as that. Here’s the thing. It wasn’t me and a horse. I had an adult upon whom I was directly dependent and over whom I had NO CONTROL. The boat was kept at his vacation home and he was older than my dad meaning I would have to RELY upon him. That was the lesson I learned that day and by which I was able to override the teaching methodology that almost every other kid would have been comfortable in – even while failing if it came to that. The lesson was that my evaluation of where my reliance would be place was valid and superseded everyone else’s choice in such regard. I would decide the control and reliance I would afford to anyone other than myself. 

The thrown ski went right past me as I swam for the ladder and opined in no uncertain terms that I was not participating further. I don’t remember anyone trying to talk me out of it and I presume they read my body language well. I never heard about that day by anyone, so that was good on their part.

The next time I tried water skiing was behind a fast boat with a big engine and a crazy rich kid age 16 driving it. I was a year older and there were no adults around and no one advising me. Got up right away and was doing one ski by the end of the week on the Corps dam lake. Also jumped off a 50+ foot bridge with that crew of kids. So, the getting back on the horse concept might work for 90% of the population, but not for me, which was another good lesson to assimilate. I think that water skiing incident is about the only time I could not do something pretty well the first time I tried it – except girls/women!

Unique “Skill”

OK, I have to try this even though I know I am rolling a big rock up a big hill. My hope is that because of the performance of some particular and peculiar athletes at this point in history, the “anomaly” may be recognized for what they might be. I am speaking of two guys in particular, but they are merely the headline getters. For a team that might well be made up of the same kind of person, I suggest that the Las Vegas hockey team of last year, who made it to the Stanley Cup Finals in their first year of organization may provide a book that can be read. Understanding, it, though, is a whole nother matter.

As I type this I see talking heads on ESPN trying to put Patrick Mahomes in a box that they are comfortable with! And, that ties right into the formation of the Golden Knights hockey team. The same analysis has been applied to Kawhi Leonard.

Each of the players of that team were left off a list of protected players from other teams in the NHL. Well, for those guys out there, there may be some other players picked up by other means, but the bulk of the team were picked from existing teams and represented a choice by the team they were on. That choice had to reflect, to some extent, the evaluation of that team, by those who are in charge of such things, that their remaining value was not as good as others. Heck, the goalie from Pittsburgh had won a Stanley Cup for them. But, and that is the big but, he was clearly an odd ball and had some performances that just bewildered any talking head or metric measurer who cared to look into it.

I presume, that a number of other “selectees” fell into the same category: falling into the odd ball bowl. I will now extempore on the subject about I wish to express myself. There may be science behind some of what I speak, and I don’t have every single fact, so argue away on that. This is pure observational analysis based upon a lifetime of living, which happened to include traveling around the world to solve commercial disagreements of some magnitude. It also includes playing 5 organized sports as a kid, through high school and on through adult life. (I am one of the odd balls of which I speak, but I only recognized how that allowed me to succeed in many different environments, including three distinct foci in the legal profession. Perhaps the door of understanding was opened for me as a foreman in a steel mill.)

Let’s go to the start of a player in a sport. And, I will use basketball because I believe it provides a great example and one that I know. I also know baseball, football, swimming and track & field, but basketball is the same for every player and all of those other sports have the possibility of a specialty that separates one right from the start. I am thinking about 6th grade level starting, but it probably starts earlier now for many, which makes the divide I am about to describe even more emphasized by those who coach and measure progress.

On the very first day of basketball introduction, dribbling and passing/catching will be covered. Much of that will be in a standstill kind of situation, with some focus on dribbling while raising your eyes up to the person instructing the situation. Eventually, though, the primary movement thing that will be taught will be the layup drill. Everyone who had been to a basketball game has seen the layup line for warm up before a game begins, but that line is the principle teacher of how a layup should be made. From the right side you go off your left foot so the right hand can get high. Opposite on the left side. Once that “technique” is shown to the kids, it is repeated over and over. Now, the first thing that those that know will say is that the repetitive nature of the drill teaches “muscle memory”.

Here’s the thing. For the average person. The person who has learned not to trust their instinctive reaction. The person that learns things by being shown by others (sensory learning as opposed to intuitive learning, scientifically). Those with average intelligence and average spatial awareness, etc. The muscle memory is, perhaps, a necessary step. For the odd ball, though, it is merely boring to do something over and over, which you got on the first time you did it. I never realized this myself until reflecting upon the life I lived, and after being asked by my grandson, “Why do you expect me to get something the first time?” My kids never asked me that, so I didn’t get that I picked up new things readily. The first time I fly fished the guy who took me was stunned to learn that I had never tried it before. When I told him that I had seen it on TV he just shook his head. The guy was a classic sensor learner and could not comprehend that my acceptance of intuitive learning allowed for first time awareness.

As a kid, I immediately started experimenting with alternative footwork and handwork during a layup drill. My coaches, I now understand, thought I was goofing off. No, I was allowing for the fact that other people would be trying to stop my layup and my footwork and handwork might have to be adjusted. I did not articulate that to myself, which takes me, and you, into the room in which Mahomes and Leonard are comfortable, I THINK!

When each of us is an infant, the only way we initially learn is by relying upon our instinctive reaction. As soon as we do that we open ourselves to being corrected by parents, or other bigger people responsible for our actions at such time. This eventually extends to teachers and coaches. (Eventually, it gets to “bosses”, but let’s set that aside.) Most people learn to not trust their instinctive reaction to circumstances. To question it, if you will. Perhaps their intuition reaction has proved to be deficient in some respect, in which case they are self taught not to trust it. Heck, that has to happen to some people and I am guessing, based upon a life of living, that that it applies to the majority. Which means that learning to control intuition is a valuable first step for the average person. By observation, everyone now acknowledges that Mahomes and Leonard are NOT AVERAGE. Understanding “why” that is, though, is beyond those that have to accept that trusting intuitive reaction is not a good idea. What, however, if Mahones and Leonard exemplify the person who never had to doubt their intuitive reaction?

Wow, if you can get into that room, now think about what that means. Set aside, for a minute, that both Mahones and Leonard have great physical attributes in support of what their mind conveys to the various muscles that result in movement. Even with other physically adept people in play, there is a factor of “time” that gives a unique and substantive advantage to the person who has no doubt about their intuitive reaction such that they stay out of the way between their brain and their muscles. Think about that for a minute, without trying to put it in a box that you understand. Very few people get to adulthood without learning to question their intuitive reaction, even if for just a split second. Ah, think about that. To question your instinctive reaction, but to decide quickly is a rare thing in itself, and that makes for quicker decisions by those who do so. However, think about that equation without even the need for a decision because “it” was made by your intuitive trust.

Now, the first thing that jumps out is that the person relying upon intuitive reaction will get to the answer quicker. Here, though, is a thought for you: the person who operates purely on intuitive reaction, because it has never let them down, ends up picking a “path” in so doing. Picking a path is better than merely being faster/quicker – because it requires yet another “choice” by anyone who would try to modify what you are doing.

There you go. There is more, but that MAY be why Mahomes and Leonard stand out in ways that around which a bow has not been tied. If so, it is likely that even they are not aware of, or more likely bother to care about, the “why” of their ability to stand out. They merely “do” it and accept it.

I have way more on this subject, so if anyone gets even a hint of understanding, feel free to touch base. (This was typed and published without proofing or review, perhaps Hunter Thompson like.)

Jump Off the Bus

I cannot believe that people do not see the steps that Trump has and is taking with respect to my proposition that all he really intends by his term as president is to enhance his status as a “leader” in the circle of people he adores. He wants to be an Oligarch, and thinks of himself as Emperor of the USA.

First, he behaves like a little boy around Putin. Then, he holds up money to Ukraine in defense of the Russians in order to get a personal favor from them. Check out the body language of Trump and the two guys in the exchanges above. Their body language is a dead give away as to how they see him and his is a dead give away as to how he knows he stands with them.

He continues to maintain that everyone else is crazy when they determine that the Saudi Prince was principle agent for the death and cutting up of the journalist – while in Turkey.

Now, he has a call with the Turkish President, almost immediately pulls all US troops out of Syria and Turkey almost immediately attacks. The guy is the most obvious person I have ever witnessed.

WHY DON’T PEOPLE SEE HIS BEHAVIOR FOR WHAT IT IS?

He wants to show other despots that he can take their game to a new level. Why can he do that? Because the USA is the most dominant force in the world and he was given the office with the aide and assistance of what the Russians did. Seriously, if he is not checked, immediately, the impact on the entire world is going to be dramatic. He is giving turf to despots and will expect turf in return, but they will just thumb their noses to him, and it will be too late then.

Pretty soon it will some out that he is in debt to Russians, Chinese and probably Saudi’s as well. Just wait and see. Time to jump off the bus headed to the cliff, let him go alone!

Back Pissing

One of my favorite stories is “The Outlaw Josey Wales”. Not merely the movie, though that is great in the extent that the lines in the movies are mostly directly from the text of the novel written. Here’s the thing, the book was written by a guy who was half Native American and half Euro American, who ended up spending early life in an orphanage that completely dismissed his native American DNA as far as how he processed life. You can see his disdain for what might be loosely called “the system”.  In the book, and the Movie unless you see it on a station that takes it out, the Yankee guy that arranges the surrender of the Rebel group, after he sees the gunning down of the newly disarmed soldiers, says to the Government guy in charge, “Don’t piss on my back and tell me it’s raining.”

In living my life I have seen misdirection for what it is, even as a child. Because of my early recognition I took it for granted that everyone could see it as readily as did I. After a life that includes practicing law for 38 years, including trying cases and all of the exchanges that go along with that, namely Motion Practice, Depositions and Document Discovery, I have discerned back pissing behavior and exposed it as such. Here is what I have discovered as the result of the current Trump dance in response to the favor he requested from the leader of another country. Why can’t politicians see that it is time to step out of the political room, even if it means you never get back in the room, simply because The Constitution is expressly at stake. The whole “deep state” story depends upon the mutual misdirection that both parties feel they are compelled to practice because of the money they each get from big corporations/PACs.

Ah, I remind myself, you must lower your expectations (as to understanding by the middle of the herd).

The only way to get the true story out to the general public is to let go of the promotional language that all politicians flow to, and simply let a professional cross examiner focus exclusively on the facts. That is how facts come out. Until all of the Democrats who are willing to sink into the pool that Trump has filled simply shut up, the Trump misdirection will continue. In other words, don’t stoop to the technique of back pissing that Trump practices. After all, it is commonly known by trial lawyers that “You can’t win a spitting contest with a snake.”

To Adam Shiff (sic) and Pelosi: Hire someone who is innate with cross examination. This person will not be known to you now and will not solicit the job from you because they know you can’t see their skill from the hill upon which you sit. Talk to a judge you know well, a trial judge, and ask for the most surprisingly calm and mellow cross examiner they ever witnessed and you might have a chance. Then, tell all of your people to quit going on TV as you will never beat Trump at the dance for which he has named the tune.

Liar’s Dance

If you care to watch FOX News, you can watch as Trump does the classic Liar’s Dance.

He can’t be stopped. I have seen it a number of times in a courtroom and other rooms in which I was an involved lawyer. If you are a courtroom lawyer, which only a small percentage of lawyers are, and if you have experience with cross examination, both those that went well and those that maybe didn’t, you learn about the various dances that witnesses will do. One of the biggest realizations I had, fairly early in my exposure to the various dances in the courtroom, was the honest reply to an honest question presented dance. In most cases, the real key witness(es) is not the party or party representative. Instead, it is a person who is testifying to facts that are necessary for the case. In such matters, the witness is prepared and is walked down the direct examination path that he has rehearsed with the attorney who does the direct exam. The best cross examination of that witness will ask questions that, when answered, exposes the witness, and everyone else in the room, to a path that is not in conflict with his prior testimony, but tells a different story. An honest question will get an answer from a witness who is interested in merely telling the truth. The original “drop the mic” moment occurred well before mics existed, but was preceded by, “Thank you, no further questions.”

I told you about the honest witness to point out that no one should ever try for the drop the mic moment with Trump. He is a liar. There can not be any question of that can there? So here is what is important to know when you are crossing a liar – they will never acknowledge that they lie. If you seek the capitulation of a liar party to make your case, you will likely loose.

Instead, you merely walk the liar down the liar path and put it all in the record. You can make your questions incredulous such that everyone else in the room will see the lie, but don’t shoot for converting the liar. Instead, you merely expose the lie such that the Judge, Arbitrator or Jury can clearly see the lie. With Trump, just let him rant and rave and the American People, who are the ultimate jury that can make the herd Republicans stand up for The Constitution, will hopefully see the lie. Those firmly in the Trump camp will never admit the lie, but they are not large enough in number to control the situation.

Well, I can’t stop myself and with the internet out there, what the heck. Trump will provide the story that proves his misbehavior.

WTF 45? WTF!

Here’s the deal on the United States RIGHT NOW.

Trump has been obvious to those who are smart and paying attention, even to people on his “side”. He has always been in it solely for he and his. That is the way he operated his business dealings and he thought it should apply to him always. I said years ago that he wanted to be an oligarch. The question right now is if the general public can be urged to consider that the leader of the stampede they have been brought into is being lead by a bull that doesn’t give a shit about the herd. He will see the cliff and veer off at the last minute, but those in the herd, who only see the ass in front of them, will follow that ass over the cliff if, say, a few other herd members don’t make the distinction necessary to take the same step aside and avoid the drop.

The only way to get the word to the herd is to teach them, sensor style, because they are not intuitive, or if they are, they see the cliff and step aside themselves without concern for the rest of the herd, except for a few that have a sudden change of heart.

In order to do that, educate the average people, the congress people in charge need a talented cross examination of those that are coming in front of them. Such good cross examination people are rare and the congress should get someone who does this well, who can put the question in front of the congress person who is doing the talking. It would be tough, because there is a timing aspect of the cross examination dance. There is also a body language thing to it such that it should be done by the person thinking it.

Good cross would allow the country to understand how bad Trump is for the country, because of his contravention of The Constitution. He just doesn’t care and that is expressly contrary to his obligation as President. Cross examination will show that and the sooner the better, cause Trump, Barr, maybe Pompeo, oh and Steven Miller all focus on Trump being Oligarch, which is really Emperor. Trump actually believes that is what President means.

There is more here, but if you can comprehend that I am glad.

Here’s a thought: I could see getting Trump to go all Captain from the Caine Mutiny on Cross. Really, I am fairly confident that I could get him there. I have done guys like him before, and having been crossed three times myself, including in a murder trial as a prosecution witness, I know the dance from all over the dance floor.

Trust Yourself

I am going to try something here that is difficult. I realize that what makes sense to me will not necessarily make sense to many other people, which has been a frustration of my existence. With that said, here I go.

It has been recently noted by an author (of whom I will try to find an cite) that there are about 25% of Americans who do not have substantive interaction with anyone who is different from them in racial/heritage origin. Clearly, such a person would have to come from other than the big cities or even the major metropolises of America. I grew up in such a town, of 14,000 people, in which there was only one African American family. In that town, and the towns and farm lands in which the current 25% reside, there was controversy between the different Euro American heritages that lived there. First, there was a religious divide, but always within the Christian sects. There were Jews and I learned from my close friend that prejudice was felt, but no violence.

The Isolated 25% (the “I-25”) are the people to whom P45 appeals with his proposal that others should return to the country from which they came. Note this, though, that at one time in the history of those isolated people, certain sections of the Euro American population were ostracized and put upon by the other Euro Americans who were the franchise by which the community ran financially. Let’s start with western PA since that is the rhythm in which I matured up to age 15. My family was largely Scots/Irish, but one grandmother was Slovak and the other was Irish/German. In the town, we were included in the franchise largely because we were Presbyterian and Masonic. We were the lower level of the franchise, but we were in a place such that if we danced in the rhythm of society there we could have a predictable and relatively sweet existence.

I did not know it at the time, but if you were Catholic and Italian, you were not directly included in the franchise. You were put up with, but looked down upon by those at the top of the franchise. Heck, even those like my family were looked down upon a bit, but we were still accepted for work in the mills and plants owned by the franchise members, who probably had land grant ties back to the formation of the state. As time went on, and especially after WW II, as the result of information gained by men who left town and fought next to people of other ilk, though still segregated by color, and learned that the heritage from which a person comes is not determinative of their intelligence, honesty and courage. Those values are true in every heritage group is what they learned and the acceptance of “others” in the isolated community began to expand. Eventually, all of the Euro Americans met each other in high school and romance further accelerated the mix. Heck, Romeo and Juliet had nothing compared to mixes in the isolated communities.

So here we are now, with the “we” being the I-25. Actually, I am not isolated since I moved from that town to a suburb in Detroit – actually an island upon which 7,000 resided and not a single non-Euro American of which I was aware. Wait, let me correct that as there was a respected doctor who happened to be Syrian by heritage, whose wife was Euro American, but that was an isolated instance there. Most of the people were really well off. Heck, the houses that faced Canada were like those in the Great Gatsby. Anyway, though, I learned to drive in Detroit, went to the University of Michigan and learned first hand that the intelligence, honesty and courage standard by which my intuition measured people did not depend upon any heritage divide. I played street ball in Detroit in my twenties on courts upon which I was the only Euro American in the neighborhood. I accepted what took place, but I was unusual. I learned, though, that honesty carried the day with everyone, eventually.

Note to the I-25: The other 75% of Americans have similar experiences to mine. They are not afraid of a variance from their ethnic heritage because they see that mere ethnic variance is not the reason a person is what they are. The images formed in their brains arise from first person evaluation rather than a sensational picture painted on TV or the internet based upon an isolated situation.

Let me give you another reference for this story. I spent time in a variety of countries around the world, and one of my longest give and take experiences was in Israel. In that country I took a 10 mile walk alone one day, just so I could say I dipped my feet in the Mediterranean. I walked through neighborhoods that were “Orthodox” and this was on their sabbath. I walked through a French neighborhood and other neighborhoods without incident, and really not even a second glance. I talked to the people, most of whom spoke English, Yiddish and another language fluidly. What I learned was that the picture we get from the news does not in any sense reflect the concerns of the people on the street. They just want to live and let live.

Here is my push to expose the I-25 to a new paradigm. One that is not based upon fear and loathing of a “threat” painted by TV, the Internet and those within politics who would use your fear only for the purpose of getting elected. P45 is not concerned with you per se, but he will play on your fears to get your vote. Afterwards, though, your place in the franchise will not change. He really doesn’t have a care about anyone but himself.

The franchise of America changes all the time. At first, it was the food that we could provide to the world. All of the canals, from the Erie canal, to canals in Ohio and in Chicago allowed farm goods to move through the water system to the east coast. New Orleans grew large because it brought the same value out of the river ways that led to the Mississippi river. For centuries, this transportation, augmented by rail road and trucking, has enabled the movement of agricultural goods to the world. That movement made America “good” for those who produced the agricultural goods moved. The I-25 live somewhere along those routes of old. They would love it if the US never changed in such regard, but they (you) must realize that the world keeps spinning, which is why the franchise(s) of today are not the franchise of yesterday.

Heck, remember the tobacco that was largely grown in North Carolina and Kentucky? Remember the big fights that Tobacco Industry fought in the ‘80s and 90s, and with a recently mandated admission of knowledge of harm, relating back to a court order from somewhere near 2006? Big Tobacco got all of the farmers on their side for political purposes, but once the cat was out of the bag now most of the current tobacco industry is grown outside of the US. Anyone beside the actual farmers who care about this? Heck no! That is just one obvious example that the finance of the US is now based upon mental labor and service rather than physical exertion. Sure, the physical aspects are still necessary, but they are not the place to which the youth are headed. The “nerds” of the 60s and 70s are now the main players in the franchise. Those people come from all heritages and the world has changed. Those people are OK and many Euro American exist side by side with them, mostly based upon finding those of their intelligence, honesty and courage from all heritages instead of merely relying upon their personal heritage as the measuring stick.

To those of you in the I-25 I suggest to you that your best move is to deny the appeal that is being made to you, for you will not be able to maintain your isolation in today’s world, just as it has always been. When you meet a different person face to face you will have to evaluate them and yourself and you will see that mere color or heritage is not controlling. Don’t let the politicians put you in a box for their purposes. Kick open the door to the room and let the light in. Accept a different paradigm because it is clear that being “white” (hate that moniker) is a divide that is without basis in fact. You are no different than what America has become. It was designed to become a melting pot and it has. It is the most unique country in the history of the world. Every other country in history, including “the East” has been founded upon the rock that is a prevalent heritage group. (Heck, Japan was created centuries ago by the people in “China” telling a group that they had to leave or die.) The constitution of US expressly recognizes that one heritage was not in control. That is what makes America Great.

The wheel is turning and you can’t slow down

You can’t let go and you can’t hold on

You can’t go back and you can’t stand still

If the thunder don’t get you then the lightning will

(J. Garcia)

 

Each individual should look at their personal intelligence, honesty and character – as the result of living, and decide if their personal honesty and character can allow them to accept the prejudice that politics would have them apply – through fear –  such that they turn their back on the clear and obvious variances between the displayed character of P45 and the standard by which they measure themselves and others. Is blatant and unrepentant lying (just one undeniable behavior) a characteristic you accept in others, much less those who would decide for you? Don’t let fear of the unknown dictate your steps. There are many Euro Americans who live every day with other heritage folks and have no issues other than the same issues they have with their own heritage group!  Join us in making your own choice.